Boyfriend becoming a slacker, help!
I asked this earlier but the responses were 50-50 so I want to get more opinions!
I’m 16 and my bf is 17. We both have rich parents. I don’t mean to brag about that but its important to know to understand the situation.
I have dated him for about a year now and things go well when we are together, but he is becoming a complete slacker with his schoolwork and other important things. His grades are dropping and his idea of getting ready for the SAT’s the night before was to party until 3am. He plays football, but was demoted this season to a backup role as even his coach told him he needed to put more effort into it but even that he doesn’t care about. He doesn’t care about looking for colleges and I don’t even know if he cares about going to college. He makes stupid bets on sports games all the time (such as this weekend on the Ravens?!) because he always just says that his parents will give him more money if he loses. I know his parents try talking to him about this. My attempts to talk to him just get a laugh and changing the subject because I’m not his mother and shouldn’t worry about this stuff.
I really think he’s going to become a deadbeat or try to mooch off his parents all his life whereas I one day want to make my parents proud and maybe return some of the favors that have been done for me when I am older even if technically, they don’t need me too. Even though nothing else is really wrong with us, I just want to call it off. What do you all think?
Is your boyfriend a stoner?
yes, end it. he is a looser
YES call it off and put some pressure on him before its too late.. if he refuses to change in that aspect then let him go and become the bum he always wanted to be.
Dump him to the curb. He’s a deadbeat!
From what I read, three people that should be very important to him have told him to grow up and he doesn’t care.
1) You.
2) His parents.
3) His football coach.
That’s a bad omen on his character. Maybe he’ll straighten out a little eventually, but you sound as though you can be selective with men, so dump this clown.
Dont end it
just explain to him that what he is doing is going too bring his life down, and it will also affect your because with you trying to change him so much, its going to stress you and affect your life plan, tell him he cant get money off his parents all his life.
When i was in school, i thought i could just fail my exams, and live off my parents. but when i came to the time that i actually failed some exams, it was so hard for me to find a job or a college course because i didn’t have many qualifactions. When you leave school the world hits you in the face and you realise that its going to be a hard life ahead of you.
It’s hard to find a job now days, and if he doesn’t get any qualifactions, hes not going to beable to get a job, or get into college.. then hes not going to get any money, he will end up living on the streets.. does he want that? no.. i dont think so.
so if he doesn’t sort out his life, he will end up like that.
I think you have got it about right, this guy seems content to go through life from one mistake to another, because he knows he has got his parents to pick up the pieces every time, he doesnt sound prepared to put in much effort of his own with anything, and that probably applies to your relationship too, but he wont be able to rely on his parents to fix that will he? so left to his own devices, my guess is he would cut and run, he has never really had to take full responsability for his actions, and wouldnt know where to start. You, on the other hand, sound as if you want to put in your own effort, and not totally rely on your parents throughout your life, that is great, and if you do that I am sure your parents will ultimately be very proud of you, and more so because, inspite of your priveledged upbringing you havent grown up expecting a “free ride” through life. Dont let this guy drag you down, when that time comes when he parents wont be there to pick up the pieces, he will be looking for someone else to do it for him, dont let it be you! he needs to know how to make his own way in life, and you deserve better than a deadbeat guy.
Posted on January 20th, 2012 by admin
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